REASON’S WHY AFRICAN MARRIAGES LAST LONGER THAN OTHER CONTINENTS

REASON’S WHY AFRICAN MARRIAGES LAST LONGER THAN OTHER CONTINENTS

Marriage is a life time commitment between two people but many people these days do not get married because they want to stay married, but because they just want to be known as they were ones married.
In Africa today especially Nigeria, Nigeria is a country were certain laws and human rights are not practiced and enforced, which in two ways benefits the citizens positively and negatively, the following are reason’s African marriages last longer than other continent.

1) When an African man gets married to a woman he doesn’t just married only the bride but her entire family.
2) When a man shows his mother his bride to be, the groom’s family takes a secret investigations and would trace back to the brides family’s history, to know if she’s good enough for their son, which gives the woman and the man involved a sense of permanency
3) Africa’s do not just marry based on emotional instincts alone.

African weddings are a family affair and involve the combining of two lives, two families, and sometimes even two communities! There are many different wedding traditions in the African continent and no two are exactly alike. However, in all the communities the bride plays a very special role and is treated with huge respect because she is a link between the families, unborn and the ancestors. A bride might eventually bear a very powerful child, so she is treated with respect. In some areas of East Africa the groom’s family would even move to the bride’s village to perform the first step of the marriage, the traditional marriage.
There are many steps that take place before marriage starting at a very young age where training takes place in how to be a suitable partner. Girls will many times go to circumcision schools where women teach them what is involved in marriage, and in some ethnic groups even learn secret codes and languages so that they can communicate with other married women.
Africans takes marriages to be very important, there’re different types of marriages that are performed in different regions in Africa, especially in Nigeria, that is made of 36 states and different dialects, every of this states and dialects have their own custom and traditions that must be performed before a bride is given away, there’re lots of bills involved that a groom will pay as well as the bride’s price, all this contributes to making the woman totally committed to the man, African see their grooms as the only one for them, and divorce is the last thing that ever takes place in an African marriage, a married African woman thinks it not totally possible that she can be remarried if she is said to be divorced, however due to the current circumstance in Nigeria as a country, looking at the human rights, and the right of a woman in her husbands house, in Africa a woman does not know her rights and freedom as a woman either married or single.

DIFFERENCES BETWEEN AN AFRICAN WOMAN AND OTHER CONTINENTS
In other developed countries women are fully aware of their rights and freedom as a woman either if she’s married or not, and they never fail to put it to practice when it matters, and in other continents people marry based on emotional instincts alone, which is not enough reason for two people together, but an average African woman is not aware of her rights as a woman or as a married woman, regardless of what her husband will do, all she seems to think and care about is her marriage, her marriage is always the first thing that comes up to her mind, the sense of freedom is not what an African woman wants to get, in other continents a woman does not tolerate her husband enough as she should, because they always fail to remember the fact that marriage is a life time commitment and its for the better and for worse. An African woman feels so insecure when ever a matter arises between her and her husband she quickly submits to him, in some cases the man would even want to throw her out of his house but she will fight her way back, in as much as he would love to get her out of his life, the word divorce is never mentioned, not because they wouldn’t want to get divorce if it came to it, but because they are not use to being divorce, in most cases the men are always the reason for the fight.
In Africa lots of tradition and customs are practiced and divorce are done in other ways, whereby the angry groom will take the wife back to her people and will leave her there, and would take a second wife, but she will still be married to him, not because she doesn’t want her freedom but because she doesn’t feel she can be able to get another life, but with time they will make amendment and resolve their differences, lots of children in Africa are not brought up to see their parent divorce one another, because they always refer to the life’s of their forefathers, a man that takes his wife to her people knows that the both families will not agree to that sort of development between their children, whose parent are still living together.
Imagine a situation whereby it is impossible to remove your marriage ring from your finger, that means for as many men as a woman is married and divorce to, will easily be known, marriage is a respectful commitment ordained by god himself and as such it should be respected, in case people are not aware it is a sin to divorce your partner, you should know that if your partner is not the way he/she is, one of you will not value the other, a couple that divorces each other is a dishonest person, because before they got married they both agreed before God and man that they will be there for each other, for better and worse, its not just a word, this is one of the reason Africa will never have the problem of divorce because it takes a lot before a man can be joined with a woman, and a average Africa man does not want to see himself divorcing his wife, due to the amount of money he spent on marrying her, he first carries her to her parents, so he would go back and get her when he is calm.
People really need to understand that marriage is a life time contract between a man and a woman, and in an ordinary contract the second party can pull out, if he/she wills, but in a marriage contract it is sealed for ever till one party is dead, that’s what life commitment entails, it just so unfortunate that many people getting into marriage these days do not understand this terms and conditions, that’s why may couples will never fine happiness if they are engaging in the business of divorcing their partners, because whatever the reason is that makes two couples decide to separate is their challenge, which they must over come to have a successful marriage and stay married. So do not run from your challenges stay and fight, stay and stay married, marriage is not a bed of roses, you can never know all about your partner, we discover different things about people everyday, so don’t get discourage by what you are seeing in him/her today, make the best out of that situation and he/she will value you. Staying married is living in another world, away from the outside world.